We all make them; bad, good – we all make them.
Our choices shouldn’t define who we truly are nor should they be able to make or break a relationship we hold.
Because, at the end of the day, we make the choices we do because it is what serves us at the time.
So, I really hope you know that you don’t have to explain your choices to anyone if you don’t want to. Especially to those people who think they have all the answers.
I hope that you know that you don’t have to stop yourself from doing anything just because someone has a problem with it. Because if you sacrifice something that gives you an inkling of happiness over being afraid of upsetting or disappointing someone else, you ultimately let yourself down.
Because people will rarely understand why you do the things that you do – they can’t walk a mile in your shoes the same way that you do. They don’t know what moves you from one place to the other. They can’t begin to understand what makes you happy or how long it has taken you to achieve the feelings you are feeling. They don’t know why you hold onto some things and let go of others.
They don’t know your heart even if they can hear it beat.
People will always want you to do something that benefits them first over it benefiting you – don’t worry, you do it to them too (doesn’t make it right or easy, just stating facts here). People will take things that they never had to endure lightly, nor will they understand why you see them differently then they do.
People will try to meddle in your life, in your choices – please don’t let them, stop their forcefulness in its tracks or you will lose your voice once again. You need to decide for yourself. Choose for yourself. Live and learn from the mistakes that you are bound to make. Grow from it – not because someone else told you, but because you went out and did it. Because people will inhibit you, they will keep putting their own approval of you over your needs.
Your choices, right or wrong, should never be held against you. You should never have to go out and ask someone for forgiveness before you can grant it to yourself. I hope you know that everyone you meet is also confused, making poor choices and still living freely.
You can’t always count on what others say or what they show you – they are still learning too.
I hope you know that you are the only one that has to live with your choices, you are the only one that can hear your thoughts. Stop defending them to those who are not living your life. Because I hope, above all else, that you never get trapped by their opinions and judgement.
Because as long as you’re always redeeming yourself or learning from it, you don’t owe those people anything – you owe it to yourself.
You’re always one choice away from changing your life.
I hope that you remember this:
It is ALWAYS YOUR choice, not anyone else’s.