For When You Grow Up

Right now, you are a little thought in my mind.

Right now, you are waiting for the right moment to come.

But when the time comes, and I will whisper these things to you, you will still be innocent in every single way possible. You will still be little, living in your own world without the knowledge of all the hurt that will hit you one day.

Because you will grow up. Your own little world will slowly start to fade, reality will set in. But I need you to know a few things first:

When you learn how to walk, you are going to fall down. You are going to fall down more times than I, or your dad, will ever be able to count. You will scrape your knees and we will kiss your boo-boos. We will constantly remind you that you have to pick yourself up and keep on going. This, my love, is how you are going to get through all of the hurt that will come your way. When your heart breaks, when you get a bad grade, when you don’t make the team, when you fail. But you know what? For all those times that life is just straight up shitty, there are going to be even more times that it will be the greatest thing yet. When you get your first 100%, when you make the team, when you ride your bike without stabilizers, when you fall in love. But, even so, you still have to pick yourself up. So, my love, remember: fall down seven times, stand up eight.

Peer pressure, it’s real, and it will get the better of you. Everyone has experienced peer pressure at one point or another in their lives. Don’t ask me why it exists or why it is still so prevalent when we know how awful it is. Even when it gets the better of you, even when you are contemplating saying no – experience the giving in just once. I know, that probably makes me sound like a terrible mother. But I can’t protect you from everything, and I can’t stop you from living your life. But I want you to stay strong, I want you to be bold. If you really don’t want to do it, don’t. Especially when you know better because even if everyone else is doing it, doesn’t mean you have to too.

People are mean. People are good. You will get a mixture of all the types of people in your life. There will be some that will try to push you down and hold you there. There are going to be some that are jealous of you for some reason or another. There will be some that will try to make you feel as though you are worthless. But don’t let them dull your shine. Don’t let them make you forget that you are priceless. Don’t ever forget that.

Whether you are a boy or a girl, you will face times in your life when you question your appearance. Is your nose too big? Why is my hair the colour it is? Why do I have freckles? Why do I have to be short like mom? Why, why, why? Self-image is only what you see on the outside. Yes, it is what a lot of people will judge you on, but what you have to remember is that it isn’t all you are. You have a heart, a soul, and those are both pretty beautiful.

Friends, they will come and go. You will make a lot of friendships throughout your time in school. Some will flourish like a flower in the Spring, others will crumble. One or two, maybe five, of the friendships that you make will be there with you for a lifetime. Others, no matter how much time has passed, will you always remember the impact they made on your life. The ones that stay, however, will be the ones that you are meant to have.

Your heart is going to break. Relationships, like friends, come and go with time. It will hurt, it will feel like your whole world is crashing down around you, it may last a while. But you will get through it, and you will come out stronger, I promise.

Family, through thick and thin, will always be there for you. No matter the distance or the amount of time spent together, they will always have your back. But, family will pass away. I know, it’s a dark and bitter truth. People will pass, it is a part of life. It is nothing that we can’t handle together. You won’t be alone on this one, my love, we will cry together and hold on until we fall asleep.

True love is real, but it is hard to find. There will be numerous times when you will think you are there, but my love, puppy love is nothing compared to the real thing. Don’t worry, it will come – with time. All of the greatest things in life take time, and many of them sneak up on you at the most unexpected times. Just, please, be patient. You have all the time in the world to find your special person.

No matter what you do, no matter how many arguments that we will eventually get into – I will always be your biggest fan. I will never let my love waver, I will never give up on you and your dreams. The love, the bond that we have developed will be unlike anything else in this world. I will be there as a shoulder to cry on, someone to yell at when you are frustrated, a cheerleader to all of your successes. I will never judge your choices in life, your journey is all your own, I am merely here to watch you ride it all out. I will never turn my back to you – ever. 

I know, as I sit here and write this that you are only a thought in my mind, and that is okay. But, one day, you will make your presence known and all of this will one day make sense to you. I will always remind you how truly special you are, how much your presence has changed my life for the better. I will let you be little, I will let you dream. And no matter what life brings you, no matter where your journey leads, I will always be there – here – by your side. 


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