Falling in Love

Psychology to me is fascinating.

And that’s not just because I hold a degree in it.

There was a social psychologist a while back that came up with 36 questions that are so deep, so meaningful to most of the population that will lead people to believe that they are falling in love. Then, after the questions have been answered by both individuals, you have to gaze into each others eyes for four minutes. Now, it is just a study. Whether or not the study would lead to something great or not, it is interesting to note that these questions are some we should all be asking at one point or another in our relationships. Who knows, these questions could help you find your big love or at the very least lead you in the right direction.

Grab someone, sit down, get the ball rolling:

  1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
  4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?
  5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
  6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?
  7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
  8. Name 3 things you and your partner have in common.
  9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
  10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  11. Take 4 minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
  12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
  13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
  14. Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
  15. What’s that greatest accomplishment of your life?
  16. What do you value most in a friendship?
  17. What is your most treasured memory?
  18. Your most terrible memory?
  19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are living? Why?
  20. What does friendship mean to you?
  21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
  22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic in your partner.
  23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
  24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
  25. Make 3 true ‘we’ statements each. e.g. we are both in this room feeling…
  26. Complete this sentence: I wish I had someone with whom I could share…
  27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.
  28. Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest.
  29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
  30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
  31. Tell your partner something that you like about them.
  32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
  33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them?
  34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
  35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
  36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

 

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