Take a second.
Think of someone important to you.
Do you have them in your mind?
That person that you care about, make them a priority. I am not telling you to make them your number one but make them feel like they mean something to you. Do it not out of an obligation or when times are easy. Make them a priority when things are messy and when you don’t have anything left to give. If you care about someone, you should show up for them.
You should be there when you say you will and even unexpectedly. Show up for them even when you don’t want to be next to them and you think that they don’t deserve it. Why? Because that is when they will need you the most. Because that is when you would need them too.
Just be there for them.
The things that come easy in life hold no weight. They float with us like a feather blowing in the wind. If everyone was perfect, love would be easy. Loving the moments that are filled with a tenderness, hope, and happiness. But love doesn’t come that easily. Love is made up of messy moments. Moments where flaws are worn like an apology, where breaking down is effortless, and the hurt spills out. This is when you need to be there.
If you care about them, put down your phone. Let the distractions stop. Live in the bad moments with them. Listen to the words that are falling down their faces. Kiss away the pain. Hold them tight. Give yourself the space and time that is needed to have a true conversation. This will make you feel like you are the only two people left in the world. Let time fly by and be lost in each other. Do not settle for small talk. Ask them what they dreamed about the night before. Have a heated conversation. Teach them a lesson. Show them your hidden talent. Tell them something no one else knows. Laugh. Be present. Be there.
The one that you have been picturing.
Are they with you right now?
Or a phone call away?
Call them over; pick up your phone.
Let them know that you care. Let them know that even if you don’t tell them regularly, that you do appreciate them. Let them know that even when things aren’t pretty or perfect, you are always going to feel the same way about them – nothing will change that. Remind them that you will protect them from, that they are your favourite. Show them. Why? Because sometimes words come out too easily, words can become false. Words can be flat. Don’t just tell them what they want to hear, back up your words. Make sure they feel your love.
Be good. Be good to them. There are too many times that we are selfish with our actions and our words. We take without thinking. We fail to protect and nurture the hearts that are important to us. There are far too many people out there that become too comfortable and complacent with their daily lives and lose sight of what they have right in front of their eyes. We take more than we give. Love is not something that we should play with. Love should not be given with one foot already out the door.
If you care about someone, if you have come to love them – show up, stand up for them. Honesty is the best policy. Make them a choice that you make each and every day. And if there ever comes a day when you can’t, if things change, let them go. Let them go because the love that you two once shared for each other, they will come to be okay with it – you will come to terms. Don’t keep someone in your life if you can only half love them. You both will be better off in the end to give that love entirely somewhere else.
So, please, stand up for the people that you care for. Love them fully, with all you have. Tell them every single day.