Truth hurts. We all have grown up knowing this, we shake it off. The life that you lead is what you make it and the only person that can help you is yourself. You have to be ready for what life has in store for you and there are some things that you have to embrace. There are somethings that we all have to accept.
1. No one is going to fix you.
If you are waiting for your knight in shining armour to come whisk you off and heal your broken heart; you, darling, will be waiting forever. The only person that can mend all of your broken pieces is you. You cannot become depended on others for your own happiness, it is something you have to create within. You can be happy for others, you can surround yourself with a stability, you can make yourself feel less alone. You have to take personal responsibility for your life and when you discover how to do that, you will be more powerful than you ever thought.
2. You can never make someone love you or stay in your life.
No matter how much you love someone, no matter how much you put yourself out there – you won’t win them all over. There are going to be so many times that the person won’t feel the same, they just won’t. Sometimes people don’t fall together, sometimes hearts don’t beat to the same tune. It is not your fault or theirs, it just wasn’t meant to happen. Forced love is not the kind of love that you or anyone wants. It will never make you happy. You owe it to yourself and others to find your one big love.
There are also going to be those people who will leave. The ones that you hold dear to your heart but they don’t hold you there. Whether it be because of circumstance or distance, people fall apart. There are things that don’t make the heart grow fonder, there are things that are out of your control. It’s okay, if they don’t care and respect you enough to keep you in their lives, it is time for you to move on too. Sometimes when it is over, it’s over.
3. Change is going to happen, want it.
Things change: technology, surroundings, environments, people. No one can make you change unless you want it to happen. But life won’t stand around waiting for you to catch up. The only way you are going to change with the times is if you put in the work and want it, every single day.
4. You will fail (a lot).
You will attempt to do something, achieve a new goal, take a risk, put yourself out there. You will fall flat on your ass while trying to get the right outcome. Welcome to reality, dear. Failure is not a bad thing, it teaches you what you did wrong and how to improve. If successful people quit every time that they hit a speed bump then there wouldn’t be any successful people out there. We are all continuous learners and with that comes continual improvement. When you fail, wait a little bit before your next attempt, and then come back. Take a new route, a new perspective, a breath. And then repeat. If you keep a firm grip on what you want, eventually you will succeed.
5. What is in the rear-view mirror should stay there.
The past is already written. There is no going back to change what you did or what they did. The mistakes that you made along the way is what makes you human. Yes, you will beat yourself up over it and may still do that from time to time, but there is no sense to it – it serves you no purpose. Focus on what is in front of you, always. Take control and direct yourself forward.
6. No one is ever too busy.
Just because you’re “busy” doesn’t mean you are accomplishing anything. Just because you are “busy” doesn’t mean you can’t get back to someone. It all depends on what number you are on their priority list. I’m sorry, but you just might not be their number one or even number five. You just are not as important as they made you out to be. Yes, there will be people who work 12-hour days and have obligations, and the numerous other things that plagued adulthood. But if you are truly interested in something or someone, regardless of what is going on in your life, you will make time. You just will. It’s incredible the things that we can get done when we are interested and invested.
7. When one door closes another will always open.
If you fall down, you get back up. If you fail, you will succeed later. If you get laid off or work becomes slow, your life is not over. There is always going to be another door that will open up to you and you will find a happy medium again. It just requires some patience and understanding. Keeping yourself down in that deep, dark hole will be the only thing keeping those doors from opening again.
8. You don’t need a lot to be genuinely happy.
If money bought happiness, then why do the richest people in the world hardly ever smile and dance in the streets? Why is it that you see only the ‘unfortunate’ or ‘lower-class’ doing this? It is because they see the greatness in the little things. They live with the simplicity that surrounds us and are okay with what that entails. If beauty and the best of everything brought happy marriages and happy lives then why don’t celebrities have the longest lasting marriages and children who are not isolated from the public? Happiness is internal and without realizing that, we will not get there. Happiness is something we have to work towards. Happiness is finding the good in the life you already have.
9. Tomorrow may never happen.
the “I will do it tomorrow,” “I will talk to her/him tomorrow,” game is not something that should be played by anyone. Things happen, bad things, all the time: natural disasters, traffic accidents, heart attacks, violence. When you are faced with the reality of death you realize that some things mean more than others, you realize that you shouldn’t be filled with pride or fear. Live in the present and take each day as it is. Take action. Smile. Love. Laugh. Dance.
10. Saying ‘sorry’ doesn’t mean you are actually ‘sorry.’
You can say that word until you are blue in the face and you are left struggling for air, but it still doesn’t mean you mean it. There are times that you apologize and it is only because you were caught doing something you shouldn’t be doing. That is the horrible truth and it is sad. Until you no longer do the thing that you are apologizing for will you ever really mean it.