“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.” – Brene Brown
It’s a big word with an even bigger meaning. To be vulnerable is to put ourselves out there in all capacities, to break out of the cages that we have built up, and to simply, be free. As humans, we can’t help but want to strive to be connected to something or someone. This is what gives us a sense of meaning in our lives. We are born, already connected to a family and from there our connections grow. But as those connections grow we become more caged, we fear disconnect so much that we hide ourselves because we no longer feel that we are worthy of that connection. Vulnerability becomes less about being free and more about weakness.
All of the greatest things in our lives are attached to our most vulnerable moments. When we think of being in love, we also think about the one that broke our hearts. When we think about our best memory, we also think about why that memory is only a memory. When we think about being a part of something bigger, we also think about a time when we were excluded from everything. These connections that our lives are built around have somehow become more about the bad than the good. Our vulnerable moments should shape us not hold us back.
Yes, darling, I understand that being vulnerable comes with excruciating pain but from that pain we grow as individuals. Allowing yourself to be seen, and really be seen for who you are, can allow the most self-love, courage, compassion and connection that you will seek out. It will always be a work-in-progress but there are ways you can outsmart your own vulnerability and make it into something just as beautiful as you are.
Even the strongest person you know; the one who carries themselves like nothing scares them, the one that seems like they will never falter, they wear that vulnerability on their face and they are no stranger to being broken. They, unlike a lot of people around, have found a way to push through the hurt and still feel like they are worthy of that connection. Worthy.
Feeling like you are worthy of love, of having your dreams come true, of belonging to someone or something is the greatest challenge that you will face when trying to break free of the cage you have built up. I KNOW YOU CAN DO THIS. Look inside yourself, what do you see? You should see someone who is intelligent, kind, nurturing, loving, genuine, courageous. You should see someone, despite all of your imperfections, is good enough and worthy of everything you should come to want – worthy of the connection. You should see someone who is pushing their fears away and taking the step forward. You should see someone who believes in what they want and strives to get it, because the universe will help you get it. You should see someone who loves themselves.
Let your vulnerability shine, let it become something beautiful.
Chase your dreams, as big as they are. Go after that person that makes your heart beat a little faster, maybe they feel the same way, if they don’t they are the ones missing out. Be the one to take the first leap and say ‘I Love You.’ Be willing to do something and not be guaranteed that it will work out for you (nothing is given easily, love). Invest your time in your relationships and allow them to flourish, even if they fade away at least you would know that you tried your hardest – you gave it your all.
Darling, don’t numb yourself of your feelings. They make you whole-hearted and they make you unique. We are wired to struggle in this life and that is okay, breathe it in and take one step at a time. We are not perfect, we will never be perfect, but our imperfections make us whole. They make us worthy of what we deserve, of love, of belonging. You are enough. If you can remember this, live by it, this world could change just a little bit.
Embrace your vulnerability, let it become your greatest strength.