You Don’t Have to be Blood to be Family

family.gifA wise man once told a troubled boy that, “you don’t have to be blood to be family,” that because of a bond that you have developed over time, family is that bond. Family isn’t all about who brought you into this world but the circle of people you keep close to you, the people that you would trust with your life. It’s about the people that have the power to know the real you, the you that you keep hidden from strangers, and they still accept you – unconditionally. These are also the people who would do anything to see you smile, to see you through a terrible day, the ones that love without having a reason not to.

Family has always been important to me even if the communication between a lot of them has been lost or severed in some way, shape or form. I still care about them and I always will. Far and wide, they will always mean something to me, they will always be there for me if I needed them and likewise I would be there for them. Growing up, it was always about that. Being there. And that is all it really takes, that is all that really matters when the day is said and done.

Family isn’t based around expectation and it sure isn’t about living up to something that you have set for yourself. Family isn’t about holding you up on a pedestal or holding you back. Family isn’t about letting you down or letting you go. Family is there to care for you, to care when it seems like the rest of the world has given up on you. Family is about feeling a love that would make the stars jealous of its brightness.


Now this wise old man, also taught me so much more. He said that “friendship is a real gift, it is given with no expectations and no gratitude is necessary, not between real friends.” Friendship is a great thing to have, friendship turns into family quickly. But unlike family, friendships are easily broken and easily lost. Friendships that can stand the test of time and distance; where even if you go weeks, months, years without talking or seeing each other, you can pick right up like they had never left your side. Those friendships are rare, they are your own diamond in the rough. These are the friendships that are your family. That are your own unique constellation because in all reality, you found them and they found you at exactly the right moment in time. They are always there, you are always there. Hold on to those ones, hold on tightly.


Through the good, the bad, the hurt, the love; family, friendship. They will always have your back. They are what this day means, what Family Day represents. A love so unbounding, so grounded in a mutual respect and understanding; a love that can stand on its own and a love that shines bright. So, hold on. Hold on tightly. Life is too short to hold grudges and to not have the ones you want in your life. Be there for them even if you don’t talk anymore. Just be there.

Hold your children tightly at night, they grow up too fast. Document those moments with your significant other, those moments that mean something to the both of you. Laugh, live, dance. Surround yourself with family, with friends. Because in the end, they just want the best for you and you want the best for them.

If you haven’t found them yet: find the Shawn to your Cory. Find the one your soul calls to. The one you can’t picture your life without. There’s nothing like that feeling, nothing.

P.S. be prepared. The edit of this video is amazing. If you love Cory and Shawn as much as I do, it will send you to tears – or even if you’re a crier and don’t care much for Boy Meets World. Family, friendship, love – sometimes it is that simple.

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